H. Jackson Brown said, “Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something.” I believe that this is incredibly true. These emotions: fear, love, and loss are not restricted to concrete things. On the contrary, they extend to abstract ideas. I can name both concrete and abstract things for this statement, as I’m sure that most people can. I’m so certain that most people can because these are natural emotions to have at one point or another in one’s life. They occur in all people no matter if they think romantically or classically.
Fear. Everyone has their own kryptonite and they fear coming into contact with the physical or theoretical challenge. The concrete fear I have is of spiders and of shots. I hate everything about spiders–from the way they move to the way they just sit there doing nothing. It’s a common fear–arachnophobia–and most people intend to never ever face their fear, which I agree with completely. I feel the same way about inoculations. They are good for me, but I just don’t see eye to eye with them. My abstract fears are more plentiful. I fear not being happy, making mistakes, not trying my best, and failure. Failure is absolutely horrifying to me because I don’t want to make some awful decision which hurts not only myself but other people. It is a perfectionist attitude which follows me around and haunts my daily actions. I wouldn’t consider myself as having OCD because I’m too lazy to actually follow through with repetitive patterns. I am more of an extremely harsh critic of myself. An attitude which I have always had is that once I do something really well, I have to be even better next time. “There’s always room for improvement.” I stopped competing against other people a long time ago, and I just compete against my past self. It’s a horrible way to act towards things, but it ensures that I do well.
Out of the three abstract qualities, love is the one that I am the most unsure of everyone having. There are two main things about the concept of love that I want to discuss. One point being that love is an overused word, and the other being what does love mean. In order to understand what love means, it needs to be broken down into a dichotomy. Having love is being on the receiving end of it, and giving love is returning the love to someone else or, more simply, loving something. This leads into how love is an overused term. People will say, “I loved that movie,” “I loved that pizza,” etcetera. These hyperbolic statements are common and used on an almost daily basis. The overuse of this term makes the word seem less and less meaningful. It does not sound as rare or as beautiful when said to someone that you fully and truly love. In an ideal world, everyone has loved something (in the hyperbolic sense) and/or loved someone. However, there are families where people have not truly loved someone because of the family lifestyle or the people in the family. Yet, for those in this situation, I have the utmost confidence and absolute certainty that they will and surely love something and/or someone, and will be loved in return.
I know that everyone has lost and will lose something. Everyone will have reach a horrible time in one’s life because of losing something or someone. Be it a loved one, a job, or a belief that you had–it is inevitable. I have lost a family member, family friends, beliefs, and the small things that I enjoyed playing with when I was younger. With each loss I grew up a bit more, which happens to all of us. I can immediately draw a connection between fear, love, and loss. I believe that most people fear the loss of love.
One thing that I fear, love, and am losing is ignorance. I hate not knowing something important which I should know. I always feel that I am seen as a lesser person because of it. But, I also appreciate ignorance. Sometimes I want things to remain a mystery to me, because the reality is to harsh and saddening. “Ignorance is bliss.” I am also losing ignorance. As I grow older, my ignorance to things grows less and less yet I remain quite naive and uninformed about several things. As time passes, ignorance maintains an equilibrium.
What do you fear, love, or have lost?